Like quitting smoking, I think one of the hardest things after a sudden break-up is stopping thinking about the person. I don't mean thinking in the way of, "Oh god, how will I ever survive?" or "what a fucking asshole" or "finally I'm free" or in my recent case, "Okay, what happened here?", but more in the way of hearing a news story or seeing something and catching yourself thinking that you should be telling your partner about it. And then realizing that that connection is suddenly gone. The other day I was talking with a group of people I had met through a friend and one guy was telling this hilarious story about gaming as a kid. I thought, "Oh R. would get a kick out of this story". And then I stopped myself.
It's strange but I found it easier watching the sex tape. It's not hard to imagine that I can have great sex with someone else. But I do find it always a jolt to lose that mundane daily connection with someone. That to me is what makes a relationship. I can't wait for the next.
{{{Snooze}}} I think losing the daily connection to someone is hard to get through. You can always call me if you need to connect :-)
ReplyDeleteCD: I appreciate that, but it's not even a sad moment. It's just a process of thinking, "Hmmm. that connection is gone"
ReplyDeleteI would miss the connection more than anything.
ReplyDeleteHugs to you, hon!
Do you find yourself wondering if you should call or write anyway? Because I've come close a couple of times. If I do, though, I feel like an ass immediately following.
ReplyDeleteChickenstrip: Yeah, it's like a little bit of purpose in everything you see/do and suddenly it's gone.
ReplyDeleteFM: I did send an email very shortly after our break-up phone call, but that was for us to meet and talk and I'm glad I did it.
God, that is so on it.
ReplyDeleteYeah...who to share the little things with, right?