Monday, February 16, 2009

How I spent Valentines Day
















My snowboarding buddy captured these action shots of me on the slopes. Note that despite 4 days of snowboarding at Jackson Hole which included three days of lessons, I am still on the beginner slopes. However, I now attack the hill with confidence and make awesome turns. Let's all just overlook how dorky my helmet is. I will get a new one at end of season.

It was such a wonderful day: bright, sunny, and full of fresh air and exercise. Also our group had a little apres-ski gathering so it was fun to catch up with others.

I remember last Valentines Day when Rob and I got completely drunk with a friend of mine, and then Rob and I went back to his place and had the most debauched, wild, drunken sex. It was a blast. I was worried that V-Day was going to hit me badly this year.

It didn't.

Two of my coworkers were planning big Valentine's celebrations this year: one is a newlywed and the other is getting married in June. I was so happy for them and suggested ideas for them. It in no way made me feel bitter or sad. Relationships have so many ups and downs - I was happy that they were enjoying the happy moments. At the same time, I know several friends who are in relationships which are either ending or in troubled times. My heart went out to them as even knowing that V-day is a commercial fabrication, you can't help but feel sad if your relationship isn't going well on the 14th.

The only time I began to feel weird was when a friend invited to a fun massage workshop event he was hosting. At that point I did feel like that would be too much for me - surrounded mainly by couples and having to pay someone to massage me on Valentines when last year I had so much 'touch' with someone I loved. I also wasn't sure who would be there and I don't like strangers touching me at all. If I were dating someone right now, it would have been ideal, but I thought the last thing I [or anyone else at the event needed] was to burst into tears at a party. Especially not when I otherwise was feeling great. It was at that point that I suddenly decided to take control of the situation and plan to do something I loved. That's where the snowboarding came in. I think I have finally found a group where I feel like I belong.

So, I hope that no one was down this past Valentines. If you are in a relationship and enjoying it, I hope that despite the 14th being a cheesy holiday, that you had fun together or just went for the fun of having a holiday where you can enjoy being a complete romantic sap! If you're in a bad patch or in a relationship that's ending, please don't make more of the day than is necessary. Don't feel pressured to be loving, but do remember to try and be kind to those around you - even an ex. And for those of you who like me are single, I do hope you didn't feel lonely.

Much love to everyone who reads this and contributes - you have given me so much strength virtually and on down days when getting out and interacting in real life was beyond me.

xo

10 comments:

tornwordo said...

I'm glad you had a good time and that you are CONFIDENT going up the beginner hill. Jackson Hole is stunning, no? Spouse and I didn't really observe the holiday, but he did make me dinner and we watched a romantic movie together.

Susan as herself said...

I have heard Jackson Hole is fab. Good for you! That sounds like a great way to spend a Hallmark Holiday. I wasn't lonely either---busy at home, errands, and then dinner and wine with friends. Ahhhhhh.

My word verification for this post is "renati" which I is Latin and is a verb form of "to be reborn." NIIIIICE, no?

Snooze said...

Torn: JH is indeed stunning. I'm so glad I splurged and went. That sounds like the perfect night for you and Spouse.

Susan: a great 14th that you had! I should explain - despite how I wrote the post, JH and the scene depicted (at a local Ontario hill) are separated by a week. I thought when I came back from JH that I would be an expert. No such luck, but I improved nonetheless. I LOVE your word verification.

Not as bad a Freak Magnet as Norman said...

I'm so happy you had a good Valentine's. And WOO HOO!!! for being confident and making awesome turns!!!

Roxrocks said...

I was mad at my husband at Valentine's Day and then he wrote in a very sweet card "Stop being such a crab!" which made me laugh hysterically!

Your helmet may be dorky but you are anything but! Good for you for making the best of the most ridiculous holidays ever invented!

CoffeeDog said...

Glad you had fun in JH!

Inexplicable DeVice said...

Wow! Looks like you had a fantastic day. I trust you didn't come home with any bruises?

I've finally posted you the prize for the SP competition. Although, judging by this post, I don't think you'll be needing it. You'll see what I mean when you get it.

Laverne said...

I've never tried snowboarding. Haven't even skied for the past 20 years. I'll stick to the hot tubs and hot cocoa, even though it does look like fun.

I spent Valentine's day with another single girlfriend and saw He's Just Not That Into You. Meh.

We had a good time going out to a tapas bar afterward. I don't think I've ever had a boyfriend on Valentine's day, so it's not something I feel nostalgic about.

Besides, I get to be mushy with everyone like I want to be, and it's excused.

Stewie said...

I'm obviously catching up on the posts (busy, busy!), but it's entries like these that encourage me to push my dad and uncle to get that Canada gambling trip going so we can get out for a beer or four.

(not related, but my verification word was "this" close to being cervix. the stupid "n" at the end of "cervin" screwed everything up. >:( )

eroswings said...

Awesome pics! You look great! Congrats on getting better and moving on!