Sunday, April 17, 2011

impatience won

When Finn failed the car test (or as I look at it - the car test failed Finn) I immediately lost all adult coping skills and cried my eyes out in the middle of the nursery. The nurse who had been looking after him that day was so kind and comforted me assuring that many babies passed on their second try. Then the doctor arrived and we went into a more private area so he could talk to me about the test results.

He assured me over and over that the test had nothing to do with Finn's ability to do well at home, but only that he couldn't stay in a car seat for a long time at this age. He then said that even babies who do well on the test shouldn't be left unattended in a car seat or be allowed to sleep in them for a long time.

I asked him point blank if I could take the baby home on the subway. He kind of alluded that that's what he would do and again, assured me that in every other way Finn was healthy enough to go home.

After a relaxing meal of pizza and prosecco, TM and I decided that regardless of the results of the second test the next day that we were taking our baby home. By car or by pram, I was having my baby out of the hospital where he was at higher risk of infection. And indeed, when my son miserably failed the car seat test for a second time, I bundled him up in his pram and walked the 45 minutes home. Of course I stopped at every single intersection to make sure he was still breathing, but we are now all a nice happy unit at home.

TM and I are thrilled and have worked out a system where we both get enough sleep, the dog is protective of the baby, the older cat keeps her distance, and psycho cat was stalking the bassinet but now is not interested once she saw the contents.


Ponita in Real Life said...

Glad to hear you finally have little Finn home and that you've figured out a system that works for all of you!

tornwordo said...

SO excited for this next life you are embarking on. {{{Finn}}}

CoffeeDog said...

Aw, I am so glad he is home with you! xox

Susan as Herself said...

A sigh of relief! Glad you are altogether safe and sound. :)

eroswings said...

Cheers to the newest member of your family finally making it home!

And cheers to the fact that the rest of your family have accepted the newest member!

St. Dickeybird said...

Glad Finn's home!

You'll be fine, i'm sure i'd be just as worried about everything if I suddenly became a parent.

Rox said...

I'd love to tell you that this is the last time you'll ever be sad about parenting "failures," but honey, your journey has just begun! You're going to feel like this forever...haha!

I'm so glad he is home with you now...I noticed you put some pics on FB that I still have to check out.