Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Family dynamics

After 40 years on this planet and happily having two older brothers R. and M., I found out earlier this year that I have a sister.

At first it was a bit of a shock, but I am so happy now getting to know her. More to the point, I'm so grateful that I have this chance to know her. Well, I guess I've been living with her my whole life so I knew certain aspects about her: I knew she was smart, funny, right-wing, and a major history buff. But I didn't know *her*. You see, I always knew her as my brother R.

If anyone said that they had any idea that my brother was transgendered, they are lying. There was no external hint to any of us. What I did notice was that my brother whom I had been so close to growing up, was gradually drifting away from me more and more. Now I understand why. When anyone lives with a secret, even if they think they can handle it, it can become too much.

I'm glad and proud that she had the courage to emerge. Soon she will be able to present as female. Obviously my sister is out at work and to friends and family or I would NEVER be writing this post (she told me and a select few others quite a while before others), but it is still her private life so I won't go into much more. It suffices to say that my parents and brother and I are supportive. In fact, she has met with a tremendous outpouring of love and encouragement [and some difficulties too, but those don't need to be catalogued here].I hope and want for people who never knew her to not think of her as a T-girl, but just as the fabulous woman she is. I want everyone to know that I have a sister and a brother.

and most of all, I want everyone who is living with secrets, in shame, and in fear because of our repressive society to be inspired by my sister who decided to be true to herself. I am in awe of her and it has given me courage.

9 comments:

Tickersoid said...
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Tickersoid said...

I feel inspired.

Here goes....

I like listening to James Blunt! There, I've said it at last, and it feels soooo liberating....

Only jesting. Well done sister! Also, well done you for your support.

Matt Swift said...

And i'm still waiting for us all to go out for drinks!

Roxrocks said...

I love that the world is changing and people can just start being who they are. I'm happy for your sister. Living your truth is the most liberating feeling!

CoffeeDog said...

Wow, glad to hear that your sister is on her journey! She's lucky to have you.

No one asked us said...

I think that is amazing that she had the courage to make the decision to be herself. I commend her bravery!

eroswings said...

Congratulations and Cheers! Truly, some people really are blessed to have such wonderful supportive, loving friends and families.

tornwordo said...

Wow, cool! My dad is having a tough time of it. Seems his best friend has taken a similar course of action. At the ripe old age of 60. I guess it's never too late to be who you are.

Laverne said...

I love the way you've written about her here. She's lucky to have a sister like you.