Friday, May 29, 2009


I've been out a lot this week, with a wonderful dinner last night with friends. However, I am now exhausted. I have a 7:40am bike ride tomorrow and all I want to do is hide out in my basement bedroom and drink a nice big glass of red wine. I also have some long overdue cards and emails to write. I need my down-time so I'm so ecstatic to be alone right now.

The only unpleasant task that awaits me tonight is that I have to give someone the "I just want to be friends" speech. I've given the speech dozens of times, I've received it dozens of times - it's a process that has to be done. For various reasons I know being lovers/partners in this particular instance will never be a viable option for me, so better to be upfront about it. Still, this guy is amazing and witty and very, very open-minded - I think we'll be able to salvage a friendship after all.


eroswings said...

I hope the let's be friends speech worked out well. I've never been successful at giving that one (nor receiving it either).

Hope you enjoy the weekend. Cheers!

Not as bad a Freak Magnet as Norman said...

Good luck with the talk. If he's smart, he'll thank you for being upfront with him and still want to be friends.

Stewie said... better to be upfront about it.Absolutely key. You strike me as someone who is upfront, anyway, but with breakups/friend talks, complete honesty is key, so there are no surprises/misunderstandings.

Like when I tell the women I no longer date that, no, I don't want to be friends. Oddly, though, they still get mad at me when I don't take their calls even after I explained to them there will be no friendship. Like I was lying.

I'm rambling.

Roxrocks said...

How did it go?

Snooze said...

You know, it's funny but I have no idea who I was having to give the speech to. I've had past flings drifting into my life recently but I know neither of them were the recipient of such a talk. I have two situations where I think I'M going to be the recipient of such a talk. Truly, I'm not sure whom I was writing about. I have a suspicion and the fact that we haven't been in touch much probably does mean it was him, but I can't remember. I do remember reading Rox's comment though and thinking that the talk went well.