Tuesday, January 20, 2009

Update from the dating world

A is for adultery: for me and Hester Prynne
B is for the Bible that tells me it’s a sin
C is for the cheating, that causes much tumult
D is for divorce proceedings, that surely will result

And of course, S is for Sue who doesn’t give a crap about any of this because I’m not the one who took any sort of vow of fidelity. Also because nothing has happened yet except for a brief email exchange.

I’m slow, but I’m not a complete moron. When a guy is mainly only available during the day, you know it’s because he is in a relationship. I called him on it and asked if he was married, and yes, he is. He’s also apparently separated, and it’s mutual. I’ll see. I appreciate his candour though. I can decide now how to proceed.


madamerouge said...

proceed with caution!

Snooze said...

Oh for goodness' sake - I'm just going to meet the guy. He already seems to be well on his way to divorce, but I'll make sure that's the case and that he isn't just bored in his marriage. I'm not interested in being the other woman.

eroswings said...

E is for Eliminate that cheating mate!
F is for Forget about it!
G is for Get away, don't get played!
H is for Hell no, don't go! You're no ho!

Be careful! Getting involved with married people is like trying to catch a greased pig! It's a lot of dirty work and you're likely to fall flat on your ass! Don't get caught up in some drama lest you find yourself in some serious crap!

But you're a smart person, so I'm sure you'll find your own way and avoid getting hurt.

Snooze said...

lol. Despite my poem, this guy isn't cheating. He is separated. He wasn't completely upfront about that, but that's okay as we haven't even met yet.

mainja said...

honestly, depending on what you're looking for from things, I'm very much in the school of 'fuck it, if it wasn't you, it'd be someone else' category. I mean, married, not separated.

that is, of course, if you're just looking for some casual fun.

if you're looking for more, then married doesn't mix. but separated, i don't really see why that would be an issue, although, it does beg the question, why only during the day and still so secret seeming?

anyway, either way, enjoy whatever you decide. *grin*

Roxrocks said...

I say he's married until he's actually divorced, but I've been on the other side of this, so I'm speaking from the heart. It's not you who has to feel bad when you look in the mirror, it's him.

And there's the whole "If he cheated with you, he'll cheat ON you" theory too.

Why is he separated? That would be the question I would ask.

Snooze said...

Mainja: you are dead on with the why only during the day question. That's my question too. We haven't communicated since our last email though so we'll see.

Rox: I don't want to be involved in a couples' problem and cause more hurt [including to me] so I will tread carefully.

Not as bad a Freak Magnet as Norman said...

If he's separated, I'd say he's fair game. But don't get attached emotionally - separated men tend to be a little waffle-y with their feelings at this stage.

Stewie said...

Definitely find out the whole story. If he's being secretive early in the game, it may be a sign.

I just realized that second sentence sounds like a damn fortune cookie.